The one thing every woman has in her Notes app that would absolutely shock her boyfriend: Jana Hocking

Warning: I am about to share something very confidential in the female world.

It’s embarrassing, a little boring, but 100 percent true. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’m not the only female who does this. (I know, because every woman I asked confirmed my theory.)

You see, the Notes app on our phone is home to all kinds of sordid details, but there’s one specific type of draft text message that every woman has stored there (and suffered through) at some point in her life. of the meeting.

It’s a secret – but not today, dear reader. Because it’s pulling back the curtain, so to speak, to reveal exactly what we wrote … and it’s not good for you guys. It’s not good at all.

Let me set the scene for you.

It’s 1 a.m. and you’re rolling in bed, the glow of your phone the only light in your room, typing furiously in your Notes app. Not drafting the next great novel or grocery list—but crafting the perfect parting text.

Yes, the breakup text. Because you can’t send that kind of text without a good deal of drafting, editing, and proofreading. You want to get it right.

It sounds a little ridiculous and quite dramatic, but for many of us, it is a very real midnight ritual.

Recently, as I was struggling with my dating drama and considering sending a “It’s not you, it’s me” message (even though it was DEFINITELY him), I had an epiphany.

The Notes app on our phones is home to a secret vault of unfinished breakups, what-if scenarios, and emotional exorcisms.

What is it about those little texts that we can’t bring ourselves to send but feel compelled to draft?

For me personally, I find them really cathartic. It’s writing down all my angry thoughts without actually getting mad at my current partner.

At 1 a.m., everything seems a lot more dramatic than it really is. And that missed phone call or harsh comment about your outfit can replay in your head over and over, until you’ve become completely fed up and decided, No, it’s time to end things.

The crazy thing is that nine times out of 10 you’ll read the draft the next morning and realize it sounds like an absolute loon, the problem really isn’t that big and praise the heavens above that you just drafted and didn’t sent. that.

But look at any woman’s phone and you’ll find a crazy draft text, just like the one I almost sent last week.

In fact, scrolling through my phone, I found three of them, all from various dating attempts over the last few months and years.

Oh my god, one even included a Gandhi quote.

And here’s another secret I shouldn’t share… we often send those draft texts to friends to get their opinion on whether we should send them.

They are always felt in the wee hours of the morning because an existential dating crisis far outweighs the importance of sleep. Wake up, dear friend, there is a drama to be resolved.

Many times you’ll wake up the next morning to a “NO! DON’T SEND THAT” text from your friend, who will also inform you that you’re crazy.

But here’s a question: If you’re constantly writing draft breakup messages in your Notes app, is that a big red flag that this guy isn’t your forever person? For example, if you’re constantly tossing and turning late at night, super upset about something he’s done, then maybe we should send those messages.

Since I’m in the mood for oversharing, here are some other things you’ll find in the Notes app for a girl:

• The names of the men she has undressed.
• The names of the men she wants to curse.
• Baby Names – I have a list and I don’t want my kids either.
• Business ideas.
• A list of sad movies to watch when she needs a good cry.
• Porn links with particularly good content that you know will do the job, if you know what I mean. What? It can’t be just me…

So let’s be honest: If Instagram is where we go to show off the best parts of our lives, the Notes app is where you’ll find our true selves.

The part of us that melts at midnight, the part of us that needs reminders of who we’ve slept with, and bucket lists that include everything from the dream wedding to the house with an ocean view.

So, dear best friend, if I ever find myself in a tragic incident, please find my phone, stomp on it a million times and throw it deep into the sea.

No one should see what’s in my Notes section. No one.