The man’s voice recording shows how difficult dating is: ‘Constant frustration’

It can be hard to articulate why modern dating is so difficult in Australia unless you have a voice note that nails it.

Kate Rose has racked up over 100,000 views on TikTok by sharing a voice note a man once sent her, where he calmly explained why he didn’t want to make any effort to date her.

“I’m very easy with plans. I don’t like to do forced things. You know what I mean? Like taking a girl out to dinner is forced,” he said.

“I just like to go out and chill. I’m pretty easy, but yeah, honestly, how about picking an idea? And I’m just going to roll with that.â€

Kate Rose, 24, lives in Melbourne and is a traffic warden. She’s officially fed up with Australian men’s low-effort approach to dating.

“The meeting is probably the worst it has ever been; my friends at work in their 40’s plus i tell them my experiences and they can’t understand how bad it has gotten. Most men don’t want to date you. They just want to fill their boredom and try to get lucky,” she told news.com.au.

mrs. Rose has been single for over three years, and she’s trying to tell Mr. Quite emotionally draining right.

“I really enjoyed dating and meeting new people, but the constant disappointment from men who will want the bomb and then leave is very exhausting,” she said.

“I’ve put a stop to dating now as I just don’t have the heart to be let down and let down again.”

The voice memo she shared online is not a coincidence, but an example of the messages she receives from men.

I posted another voice note from another guy who also suggested going to him for a first date. There have been a lot of other guys who have asked the same thing, and most of them, when I say no, they’ll stop answering, she explained.

The 24-year-old believes Australia’s dating culture is poor because men are so relaxed and used to putting in little effort.

“The bar is set so low now that we’re impressed by the little things that are literally the bare minimum, like a good morning text every day or if they hold the door open for us,” she said.

“I also feel like a lot of men just want to have fun with women who don’t actually want to take them on a date.”

mrs. Rose admitted that it makes her “worried” about her romantic future because she worries there are no good men left.

“A lot of men have made me feel special and then out of nowhere I just ignore them or change completely and that really bothers you and can demean you as a person,” she said.

New research from dating app Bumble found that 55 percent of Gen Zers agree that romance is lost, but they want to rekindle more meaningful romantic connections.

Almost half of single women agree that flirting is the antidote to the low-effort Australian dating culture experience, as it shows effort and communicates intent.

Sex therapist Chantelle Otten said Australia, at this point, is “desperate” for a better romance culture and flirting could be the answer.

“Flirting is an essential part of human connection. At its core, it’s about playful communication and showing genuine interest in another person. “It’s disturbing to see that only 7 percent of single Gen Z individuals feel confident in their flirting skills,” she said.

“We need to find a balance where the art of flirting is not lost, but adapted to suit our evolving communication styles.”