3 common sex moves that destroy relationships, according to experts

Sex, can I?

Sex is an important but sometimes complicated part of romantic relationships.

And from not having much of it to removing condoms when they do, it’s something Gen Z in particular seems to struggle with.

But some experts have thought to share the common mistakes that can ruin the mood – even an entire relationship.

However, don’t worry if you’ve already made these moves: they also shared their tips on how to fix the situation and make things better.

Ignoring your partner’s needs and boundaries

“The actions that tend to become problematic are those where a partner’s needs or boundaries are ignored,” relationship coach Katie Flowers told the Daily Mail.

“When intimacy becomes a one-sided experience, where one partner’s needs take precedence over the other’s comfort or pleasure, it can lead to disengagement.”

Fortunately, the opposite is also true. Connecting and communicating with your partner will allow you both to feel more comfortable to fully enjoy the experience.

“If you’re only thinking about yourself when it comes to sex and don’t consider your partner’s pleasure, then your intimacy can suffer,” Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationship expert at UK sex toy and lingerie supplier Lovehoney . told the Daily Mail.

For example, skipping foreplay and going straight for penetration can be a hindrance and make sex less enjoyable for both parties.

Sex is about more than reaching the bottom line – communicate beyond dirty talk and have fun.

Prayer for a sexual act

Asking “for something the other person doesn’t want to do” and “getting on with it” can also ruin the mood, Cindy Gallop, activist and founder of sexual self-help site MakeLoveNotPorn, told the Daily Mail.

She noted that this usually happens with men harassing women about anal sex.

“Men want anal sex. But you can’t have anal sex when your partner doesn’t want to try it,” Gallop said. “You also don’t get it by begging her, insisting ‘everyone else is doing it’ or sending her porn videos.

Instead, the expert advised, focusing on the other person’s pleasure “in whatever creative way you can” will make them more willing to explore new moves with you.

“Make sure the sex you’re having is about [them]and giving [them] such a good time, that [they] will be increasingly open to wanting to explore new experiences together,” said Gallop.

Think there’s a right way to have sex

While there are definitely some wrong ways to have sex—as listed above—there isn’t necessarily a right one.

“One of the biggest mistakes people can make in the bedroom is thinking there’s a ‘right’ way to have sex,” Knight said.

“It’s easy to get caught up in worrying about performance or whether you’re doing something ‘wrong’, but remember sex is about connection and pleasure.”

People often compare their sex lives to others, but there is no set number for how often you should have sex.

As long as you’re happy with how often you’re using it, then that’s enough.

“There’s also a lot of pressure out there to have more sex, but honestly, it’s all about quality over quantity,” Knight said.